1. Any long-term relationship that’s successful is really a myth that two people create together … and myths are built of lies, and there’s usually some kernel of truth… When you think about it, you meet somebody for the first time, and they’re not presenting their warts-and-all self to you — they’re presenting their idealized self to you, they’re leading with their best. And then, eventually, you’re farting in front of each other. Eventually, you get to see the person who is behind that facade of their best, and they get to see the person your facade, your lie-self — this lie that you presented to them about who you really are. And what’s beautiful about a long-term relationship, and what can be transformative about it, is that I pretend every day that my boyfriend is the lie that I met when I first met him. And he does that same favor to me — he pretends that I’m that better person than I actually am. Even though he knows I’m not. Even though I know he’s not. And we then are obligated to live up to the lies we told each other about who we are — we are then forced to be better people than we actually are, because it’s expected of us by each other. And you can, in a long-term relationship, really make your lie-self come true — if you’re smart, and you demand it of them, and you’re willing to give it to them… That’s the only way you become “the one” — it’s because somebody is willing to pretend you are.
    Dan Savage, The Price of Admission: Dan Savage on the Myth of “The One” | Brain Pickings (via sarahspy)

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  2. and when the laundry was done i was afraid to go home

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  3. Sometimes you go to dinner with your boyfriend at his ex-girlfriend’s and tell them to get back together.

    And that’s OK.

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  4. Everyone says it isn’t my fault, but it 100℅ is.

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  5. yesterday, i was thinking i was ready to have kids. 

    and then i killed my cat with carelessness,

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  6. I’d always assumed it was the drugs that had made me feel so greasy, but it turns out it’s just the sleeplessness.

    3 months ago  /  0 notes

  7. decided, last night, it was time I picked out a therapist

    so, of course, my health insurance web portal was down for maintenance

    3 months ago  /  1 note

  8. Antisocial

    Am I bad for people? Do I leave a wake of destruction in my path? Do I hurt the ones I love the most?

    I say I don’t do it on purpose, but here we are again, so maybe I’m kidding myself.


    6 months ago  /  2 notes

  9. sometimes, being with people is the loneliest feeling of all.

    6 months ago  /  4 notes

  10. patients. patience.

    i just wish they’d call my mother by the right name.

    7 months ago  /  1 note

  11. and, in the inevitable trainwreck that is every NYE with a significant other ever, let the fighting commence

    8 months ago  /  1 note

  12. breakfast of champions

    first, it’s lift up the fork, open your mouth. then, it’s chew. you have to chew. you have to keep chewing.

    but then, all of a sudden, you’re crying, with a mouth full of eggs. and what the fuck are you supposed to do with that?

    8 months ago  /  1 note

  13. today, i learned that former coworker died two weeks ago. i last spoke to him a month ago today. he had cancer. i didn’t even know.

    why am i so bad at people?

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